I spent years living within the illusion that thinness and the perfect body would magically solve the riddle of my unhappiness.
I thought the confidence and empowerment I so craved was on the other side of a body covered in stretch marks, cellulite and jiggle, roll, jiggle.
I clinged onto this belief even though I would look back at pictures of myself when I was thinner and tighter and remember that even then, I wasn’t truly happy.
It wasn’t until I realized that I was trying to solve an internal dilemma with an external reality that things started to shift.
I realized that happiness is a state of mind, not a body size.
Real happiness doesn’t come from shedding pounds, it comes from shedding society’s expectations of your body.
And your life.
It comes from being in your truth, choosing your own path, and living life on your GD terms.
We don’t actually want thinness, thinness is a smoke screen, a distraction.
What we want is sovereignty, the ability to be assertive in our lives, to have the right to create our own path without the pressures to conform to society’s expectations of beauty and thinness.
What we want is to stop people pleasing.
The problem is we have been fed a lie that tells us the only way to have sovereignty is to have the perfect body.
And seeking sovereignty through external validation means we will always be at the whim of our circumstances, instead of being able to stand in our truth regardless of the storm arising outside of us.
And so we stay stuck, chasing thinness because we think it’s the only way to have the life we want.
But as we tirelessly pursue the shrinking of our body size, our life shrinks right along with it.
If you’ve read this far, I want to offer you this: you deserve happiness no matter what your body looks like.
And you can be happy no matter what you look like, if you are willing to source it from within instead from outside.
P.S. if you want support doing that, reach out to learn more about how I can help you!