If you've ever worked with me then you know that I can be triggering af.
I will likely tell you like it is, instead of what you want to hear. And it can be confronting.
Sometimes I will give you tough love. Now is one of those times.
I believe in the power of choice.
Here is where things get real.
Making peace with our body & food requires a relentless commitment to choosing ourselves even in the face of judgment.
You see, Diet Culture is so loud, the messages so pervasive, the stigma all too real, that sometimes we forget that we have a choice to participate in it or not.
To pander or rise above.
Given the reality of a prejudicial diet culture, we have two choices in how to respond to it:
1. Comply, conform and let it drive our life
WE CAN CHOOSE TO:
• Micromanage every bite of food we take
•Weight cycle: lose and gain the same amount of weight for years
•Not wear a bathing suit or go in the ocean
•Punish ourselves with exercise
•Let our weight define us
•Stop our friends and family from taking any pictures of us
•Have sex with a shirt on and the lights off
•Turn down spontaneous invitations to happy hour because of our diet
•Never order what we want, always opting for the “safest/healthiest” option
•Skip going out on the weekends
•Blame our lack of willpower & control for behaviors that are actual side effects of dieting and body shame
•Restrict ourselves mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually...
All at the hands of discrimination against our bodies that is designed to suppress our freedom and our life!
2. Be true to ourselves in the face judgement
WE CAN CHOOSE TO:
•Enjoy foods that we love free from shame & guilt
•Find joy in moving our bodies in ways that feel good
•Have sex with the lights on, fully naked, oh my!
•Put on the swimsuit, get in the damn pool & PLAY! •Trust in our inherent worthiness & god-given enough-ness
•Wear the damn crop top •Stand up for ourselves and others impacted by Diet Culture
•Embrace Health at Every Size and Intuitive Eating
•Refuse to engage in self-harm (body shaming, weight suppression, dieting)
•Be unapologetic about who we are
•Stop waiting for a smaller body to start living your life
How long have you put your life on hold?
You do not have to keep waiting for a body that is not natural to you.
You can choose to be true to yourself today.
I’m not saying it’s easy- I get that it’s gunna take facing fears & cultivating relentless self belief, fierce courage & unwavering faith.
While developing a disordered relationship with food or an eating disorder may not have been a conscious choice, healing from it is.
And the choice is yours.