The short answer is no, it's not wrong to want to lose weight.
Wanting to lose weight is a totally understandable desire given the
THIN-OBSESSED, weight-discriminatory culture in which we live where our bodies are routinely & continually monitored & criticized by messages from the media, health professionals & people in our life.
I fully understand & have compassion for why people want to lose weight.
We live within a culture that makes us believe our bodies are a problem to be fixed & it's our fault if they don't look perfect or "look healthy".
There is nothing inherently crazy, irrational or wrong about wanting to avoid judgment from friends/family/strangers who might lose respect if we gain weight or wanting more social currency by being seen as more attractive/lovable/desirable if we lost weight.
You know what IS wrong though?
▶️The culture that convinces you to engage in harmful, extreme, obsessive behaviors just to be treated with human decency.
▶️The social stigmas that make false assumptions about your morality, character & health because of your size.
▶️The hierarchy of bodies that results in several forms of discrimination like lower pay, less access to medical procedures & overall lower quality medical care.
That IS wrong. That is what I do not stand for!
If dieting (aka losing weight & keeping it off) was easy,
if it didn't take over our lives,
or rebound into emotional eating, binge eating, long-term weight gain, and obsession with food & our body,
if it didn't result in our self-esteem & self-worth being further attached to our weight, then it would a viable solution to this unfortunate effed up culture.
But dieting (aka forced attempts at weight loss/weight control) doesn't work and it does lead to one or all those things I mentioned above.
So it's not a practical, long-term solution & as a coach, my goal is to help people understand this & offer another solution:
SAY NO TO DIET CULTURE.
Opt-out of this system of oppression that harms us all & no longer participate in it.
Reject its ideas & beliefs.
CHOOSE yourself as you are and stand-up for people of all sizes because all bodies are worthy of respect. Okayyyy?
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