There seems to be a reoccurring theme on coaching calls this week around foods that we are afraid to have in the house.
Foods that we fear we will lose control around.
Foods that never seem to last more than a day.
That whole, "once I pop, I can't stop" thing.
One bite turns into the whole box/carton/bag.
Maybe it's cookies, peanut butter, ice cream, chips, chocolate covered coconut cashews from Trader Joe's. Whatever.
But here is the thing, we don't end up feeling "out of control" around a certain food unless we are actively trying to be in control of it in the first place.
Our fear of the food is reflective of our level of restriction around it.
That means, to some degree you are shaming, guilt tripping, calling it bad or forbidden, judging or limiting yourself and that food. You wished you didn't want it or you're afraid you will gain weight.
Whenever we say we can't or shouldn't have something, we create a charge around it. And that charge creates a magnetism.
So..., we want it even more. Sometimes we even *feel addicted* and powerless to that food. That only happens when we fear & restrict it.
On the contrary, when you give yourself unlimited access to a food you don't feel crazy around it. No shame, no guilt, no fear, no conditions..., that food is simply no big deal because it's allowed to be a part of your life.
The only way to decrease the charge, and thus the fear of being out of control around these foods is access and permission. Not just physical access but deep emotional access as well.
Fear of a food leads to feeling out of control around that food, which means you are restricting so binge eating is around the corner.
Let your fear be your mirror, reflecting back where you need to go a level deeper with your access.
And PS. I know this can be easier said than done, so I'd love to help you if you are feeling really stuck.
CLICK HERE to learn about coaching opportunities.